Falling For The Bad Guy by Stacy Rios
Not all women fall for the "bad guys". The ones who do may have low self-esteem or there's just not much going on in their own lives, so they rely on someone else to "whip it up" for them.
The reason that girls or women are attracted to bad guys is that they find these guys more exciting. They are unpredictable. They are like wild horses barging through the stable doors. They are full of fury and action, but little else.
Bad guys also need to have a lot of external validation. They need to feel different or special or cool and they thrive on the negative attention that they receive for their bad deeds. In high school, it's all typically a facade and can be very amusing. In adulthood, these guys regularly end up on the wrong side of the law. Hook up with them and eventually, they'll end up being incarcerated. At least you'll always know where they are when they are locked up.
Bad guys are takers and takers only. Some women need to give and nurture someone in a relationship. While give and take and nurturing are part of all good relationships, bad guys are a one-way street. They only take. If they give anything it's grief. Some women think that's what they deserve and no better, that's the tragedy.
When I was much much younger, like 14 and 15, bad guys stuck out and were attractive in a weird sort of way. They were entertaining, but that was about it. I never went out with a bad guy because by the time I was old enough to date my tastes in guys had changed. Bad guys were just confused little children, in constant need of attention. I was amazed at how needy they really were, and the "bad guy" facade was just that, a false front. Underneath, these guys were whimpering, spineless, clingy children. And that was not attractive at all.
Now, I feel sorry for them. I would never consider dating one because they are so full of themselves they have little to offer in the way of a relationship.
When you hear the saying, "nice guys finish last", it's because the best are saved for last. The last guy you date becomes your husband. So finishing last in the "dating" arena is really a positive thing, because it means you are the final contender and the winner. I don't think that people realize this when they hear the saying and it has become the lonesome wail of nice guys. But when you're at a dance, and you're dancing w/ a bunch of girls, you save the best for last, so that you can take her home, right? That's the idea.
